Good communication is important in a relationship.

This article wants to be dedicated to couples who are in a relationship but quarrel all day long, people will inevitably have disagreements with people, sometimes quarrel is a way to vent each others repressed emotions for a long time, but in the end it is very bad, some people quarrel and start to divorce, break up, or even worse, end their lives.

In fact, two people together can not think the same, you can not force each other to accept your ideas, but you do not always bear too many grievances, love repair to improve is a very normal thing, it is impossible to rely on a person to change will be more happy, a lot of things need two people to work together to improve, as an old saying, as long as there is a heart, Just do it.

1. No comparison does no harm

We always use comparison to express our dissatisfaction desire, many people will talk about Lao Wang and Xiao Chen next door, Xiao Zheng and Ah Hong of the companys colleagues, and then ask you: Then why didnt you do that?

It is very difficult to maintain a relationship without fighting, and if two people are together today and have to compare with other couples, you will really never be finished. You can refer to the things that happen in other peoples homes, but dont force the other half to do the same thing, just like a dress different people wear will have different feelings, other peoples emotional pattern is not necessarily completely suitable for your emotional life. The most important thing is that you both have to be satisfied with each other, I know it is difficult, but please recall the moment when you were together, because you are each other who were determined to be together.

2. Dont criticize without praise

Sometimes the life education given to us by the previous generation is to criticize and deny everything first, as if you need to criticize first to show that you are very good at it, have seen the appearance of wind and waves, and show that your experience is enough. Even use criticism to motivate the other person to change, and the speech will be particularly sour or meaningful.

Now the era is slowly changing, we also need to gradually change the way we dont like the elders to talk to us, maybe we cant change it all at once, and slowly do exercises to change, we will be able to get rid of this bad habit of always criticizing first. Some people are not used to export praise, always can not say good praise, but in fact, this can be practiced, from a simple good! , Thats great! , so impressive! At first, slowly make it a mantra, so that the people you spend time with will feel better because of your approval.

3. Remind yourself not to think too negatively

Many couples in the chat will be because one of them may be overly negative relationship, and the emotion transferred to the other half, no matter how the other half say or comfort, he just feels that everything is not good enough, old to the bad place to think, for example, maybe you are just working overtime in the company, but it is considered that you are avoiding communication or there are other objects outside.

This excessive emotion is easy to bring pressure to the other half in getting along, but it can also be practiced, you can think about the details of what you have to do, but it is timely to remind yourself to relax a little, things are not as serious as you think, and there is nothing that you have to deal with. It is not necessary to become a 100% positive thinking person, but to try to control the emotional side, emotions will affect the physiology, and physiology will affect the interaction of daily life. Sometimes try to relax to look at a lot of things, the negative emotions a little attention shift, maybe get along with will become more harmonious also maybe.

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