Men and women from making friends into love, will inevitably go through countless dates. Is the purpose of dating just to have fun, fill up some empty time, and spend time with each other? Not at all.

We have to look at this with a positive attitude, through dating, you must step by step close to his heart, so as to understand whether he can hold your hand for life. Dont spend your dating time cuddling and cuddling, focusing on the pleasure of physical contact, but forgetting that getting into his inner world is the priority; Otherwise married, became husband and wife, only to find that it seems to lie beside a stranger.

1. Dont be afraid to say what you like about your date

Whether it is a blind date introduction, a chance encounter, a colleague or classmate for a long time, or a relationship for a while, you should pay attention to the quality of each date. Especially modern people work busy, time compression, mostly through mobile phones, video contact, it is difficult to arrange to meet, but also to plan the dating content.

Whether it is a dynamic or static activity, both parties should clearly state their interests. At the beginning of the relationship, the feelings are not deep, you can respect each others opinions; If you decide to make it official, you dont need to hide your feelings or worry about him turning down your offer.

You know, the two of you are supposed to cultivate a tacit understanding through dating, to understand what attitude he shows to you who has different opinions. So, dont hide your intentions in order to please the other person, or feel embarrassed. Its like choosing a restaurant for dinner and you say Whatever! Shopping to see a movie, you say all good! Singing and seeing an art exhibition, you shrug your shoulders and say No problem! In the heart but complain that he does not understand your heart, does not respect you, clearly you give up the right to have.

During dating, you dont care about expressing your own thoughts, and once married, you will be led by his nose? So dont be afraid to speak your mind.

The content of the date is all-inclusive, static is to eat, drink coffee, go to a concert, see an exhibition; The dynamic is climbing, walking, diving, watching football games; To improve the spiritual level, there are chatting, attending Bible study classes, short preaching or spiritual training meetings. After all, the two of you are independent individuals, and even siblings do not necessarily have the same hobbies, so if you cannot reach a consensus in the early days of communication, you can take turns to arrange static or dynamic dates according to your own hobbies, and slowly, and then observe whether you can successfully run in.

2. Learn about his interests and get involved

If the running-in is not, the interest gap between you two is really big, there is a more positive way to date, that is to learn to understand his hobbies, take the initiative to participate in his activities, and maybe cultivate you to find new interests. When encountering different opinions, they also know how to deploy and accept each other.

For example, many boys like to watch the World Cup football match, but their girlfriends do not like it, even if it is held once every four years, both men and women will inevitably dispute over this. Especially boys like to cheer for their favorite team with their friends, drink beer, shout, and spend a game night. This is really a time to test each others feelings.

A World Cup football match, a girl stinks with a face, from time to time, constantly ask her boyfriend: Is it OK? When can you go? The boyfriend is nervous, angry with his girlfriend, to go you go.

Girl B is not the same, she went online to understand the rules of the football game in advance, as well as her boyfriends favorite team, can not understand and ask her boyfriend, slowly, girl B also like football, and even watch all kinds of football together when dating. Because of the intimate performance of the girlfriend, the boy will naturally vote for the girlfriends next date.

When you are involved in activities with his friends, you can also take the opportunity to watch him get along with his friends and enjoy the true expression of the game. If you are not willing to learn each others hobbies when dating, even if you are married, if you cannot participate in activities together after marriage, it is easy for other members of the opposite sex to take advantage of it.

If you both have overweight or health issues (e.g., three heights), consider exercise as a date. Go to sports parks, boulevards, ancient roads and other walking or fast walking, if the economic ability is good, you can also join the sports center as a member, walking treadmill, cycling, participating in various sports courses, so that both people can chat together, but also become healthy.

3. Prepare material for your date conversation

We will be well prepared for job interviews! Learn about the companys operations, employee benefits, future prospects, etc. Work is not a lifetime thing, we are so serious, marriage is a lifetime of lessons, more attention.

Whether youre talking face to face or typing on your phone, make a mental note to plan your conversation. For example, the me too incident on news topics, the presidential election (the gap in political ideas can also affect feelings), and the derailment of a male scum who chews womens feelings, so as to understand his values, ethics, marriage and so on.

Of course, it doesnt have to be so serious, but it can also talk about light topics, such as travel, music, the declining birth rate, the most romantic cafe, the best place to eat out, etc. Or from YouTube videos with high views, such as the top 10 most beautiful and ugliest buildings in the world, tips for animals to cool down, etc., share your views with each other, broaden your horizons through a wide range of topics, and also understand whether the other person is a woman who does not go out for a long time, or a man and woman who yearn for the outdoor world.

4. Find opportunities to visit his family

After dating for a while, you can find the opportunity to visit his family, he is more relaxed at home, easy to show his true nature, you can get to know him. Its best if he offers, so take the opportunity to say yes, or you can offer. If he escapes or refuses, he must understand the real reason, whether he is worried that you will find out the truth about his family, such as parents are divorcing or family often quarrel, there is a tendency to domestic violence.

When visiting his family at home, you may wish to watch his parents get along with the model, the relationship between brothers and sisters, the taste of dinner dishes, the distribution of family affairs (all girls do family affairs, boys have nothing to do; Or male and female students do it together, boys still under the kitchen), which affects your marriage.

You can also join the conversation of their family members to see whether they are talking about investment and finance, eating and drinking, talking about famous brands and luxury goods, or international news, and also take the opportunity to learn about his familys political stance, religious beliefs, married family or two generations All of these have a big or small impact on the future of marriage.

However, dont visit his family too often before getting engaged or talking about marriage; Once youre sure, dont just go to his house once, or you wont get a clear picture of his upbringing. Go to the number of times, and gradually familiar with his family, you may take the initiative to help the family, such as cleaning up after meals, guiding his little nieces homework, helping to repair small appliances, teaching his parents to use mobile phones, etc., to promote your relationship with his family.

5. Always maintain a safe distance

Since it is a date, the chances of you two getting along alone will naturally increase, at this time, you should pay attention to each others physical distance. There is a common slogan on the back of cars: Keep your distance to be safe. Its a corny warning, but its always useful for couples in a relationship.

Even as society becomes more open, we often see boyfriends and girlfriends sharing rooms, college students cohabitating to save money on rent, and even motels advertising discounts on Valentines Day. Sleeping together before marriage seems to have become commonplace; If you follow this trend, it is a pity that you do not wonder whether premarital sex will bring bad effects.

You know, sexual relations run too fast, but shorten the life of love. The girl who once regretted it said that she could not afford the requirements of her boyfriend, and after delivering her body, the content of each date was to go to bed, and the boyfriend did not want to talk to her. Even if the body is close, the distance between the two hearts is getting farther and farther, and the love that was originally optimistic is so dead.

Therefore, if you are optimistic about this ongoing relationship, you should keep a safe distance, refuse premarital sex, carefully choose the date location, and do not give the other party a chance to quickly capture the home plate. Dont mistake sexual relations for love, thinking that just because you have intimacy means he will marry you, you will probably be disappointed.

In short, when you consider to confirm whether the other party is a suitable marriage partner, dating is essential, even if the work is busy, but also take time to date, so that each other better understand, so as not to rush into marriage, only to find that they can not enter the other partys heart, regret that they are too hasty, has been too regretful.

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